We, as people, tend to get stuck in out ways. We like routine, and order, and fall into patterns of acting and thinking. Often what we do is to do with ease, or convenience; we do what requires the least effort.
The problem comes when we try and change; when we try and break that routine and attempt a different way of doing things. These significant changes – or attempts at change – tend to come at important times in our lives. For example, when you’ve been deeply affected emotionally by an event – such as the death of a friend or family moment, or if you lose your job, home, etc. – you can feel the need to change who you are; to do things a new way; a better way. Another time in our lives when we aim for change is at the New Year, when we set out resolutions that we desperately try and stick to. All too often, however, we fail; we resort to being the people we were before, and to doing the things we did before.
Why is this? It’s because people are creatures of habit. That’s pretty evident from the fact that we need a significant event to come around to even consider changing in the first place. Change can be a long process, and all to often we just give us, either because it’s all too tiring, or because we don’t see any change in our person. The key, I guess, is to be patient and stick at it. Yes, it may require a lot of effort and energy, and the result may not be immediately evident, but eventually you’ll get somewhere. Slowly, but surely, you’ll work your way towards being a better person; towards being the person you want to be, either for your own sake, or for the sake of your friends or family, or in memory of the loved ones you’ve lost. Put in the effort now and you’ll be rewarded further down the line.
